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Monty Clark's avatar

Please offer some advice. Let's suppose a traditionally masculine Gay couple in their mid-60's (older than you two Gents), want to follow in your travel footsteps. They're traveling in a predominantly Muslim region in Eastern Europe, or maybe in the Middle East. These two men are friendly, polite and respectful travelers and strike up a conversation with men in a mosque or other obvious environment that frowns upon or prohibits homosexuality. A local asks if the two men are related. Do they - SHOULD THEY - pretend to be brothers or cousins, so as not to offend anyone or endanger themselves? Or do they proclaim they are married to one another, are "Friends of Dorothy" and turn this simple, harmless inquiry about their relationship into a potentially explosive situation or even a "teachable moment?" I can appreciate you want to live with personal dignity. In this situation, one of the Gay men wants to fib the details to keep things, simple, light and safe. The other Gay man in this couple, feels he must speak his truth when asked. And that's when the fireworks will begin. As the internets seem to have very few normal, grounded Gay couples such as yourselves, please take a moment and share how you would handle this situation. One of the men in this couple wants to skip his way through this merry encounter and the other believes they will be confronted with being taken into custody, imprisoned, in which case, things go badly -- and not in a Gay sex fantasy way. Thank you! We found you from the Nomad Capitalist and look forward to following along with you. And BTW, determining how best to handle this is shockingly in 2023, one of our top concerns! (Thought we and the world were way past this!)

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Antonia Malchik's avatar

I second all of this! Eastern Europe is amazing and so different from the usual places.

Being near a war zone is a strange, surreal thing. I lived in Vienna when the war in Yugoslavia was happening, and you never would have known it and they're only a train ride apart.

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