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Amanda Kendle's avatar

Ah, this made me laugh long and hard. I also have a mix of opinions and agree with both of you to a certain extent. If I ask my main travel companion, my 11-year-old son, he would point to the Japanese cherry blossom incident. A few years ago in Kyoto, he had to place a ban on me taking any more cherry blossom pictures because it was really starting to interfere with his enjoyment of the day. Oops ...

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Stephen Vance's avatar

My wife and I have a similar conflict. I tend toward Team Brent. Worrying about photos and framing and posing brings me out of the experience. I'll take a few photos, but I'm more likely to read the plaque and notice the statue without a camera than with.

My wife loves taking photos. I think the biggest contention for us is whether we should be in the photos or not. She loves posing for them and documenting her presence at a place. And she always wants me to, or at least asks me if I want to, pose in a photo. I don't feel the need to have photos of myself and feel that I'm less interesting than the thing I would capture in a photo.

The next biggest is how much time and attention should be spent on photography. I feel her photo urges favor preservation over presence.

We find a balance. I pose a bit. She often listens when I say it's too much.

But the tug of war persists.

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