Hey! LOVED this post, thank you. I can relate to so much of it, both as an anxious mom, but also about my fearful mother. Oh, wanted to let you know that the referral link for the Chase credit card is broken on this page ;)
Your poor mom, living with that kind of anxiety must have been so difficult. The thing is, while it could have been from some trauma she witnessed in her past, it also could have been the confusion of raising a child in the aftermath of the war. In my teens I thought my parents were just mean or stupid, but now I see that they had to be confused to the point of desperation. The world changed so FAST in the 50's and went totally berserk in the 60's for those who grew up in the 30's and 40's. Who can blame her? The sink thing is advice that remains timeless though.
I can remember my Mom telling me many times there was nothing better for a person to receive a handwritten greeting card in the mail. From what I have experienced, she was right. After she died, I cleaned out her desk and found a supply of enough greeting cards for her to open her own Hallmark store. As for tree houses, having fallen out of couple and losing my breath temporarily (I fell on my chest), I don't miss the excitement of climbing a tree. Plus, I'm afraid of heights anyway. Take care.
haha, yes, there is a thrill of receiving an actual note. I think it means something -- the person thought of you, expended effort, etc. But I suppose that's very old school by now, sadly.
My vertigo grows worse the older I get. Not a good thing!
I completely get this. This is me, a little in all of this (a little in each of you). My partner has the extreme gene, though, I'm sure. I'm so grateful that he never "let" me tag along on any of his sailboat races. He somehow knew, early on, that I would quietly disappear from his life forever if I experienced that. And he was right. I have no desire to risk my life to win a race. I don't even understand why races or competition exist. Ditto for his mountain climbing and extreme skiing (who flips in the air at high speeds?!). BUT, I totally encourage him to get out there and do all that with his buddies. I want him to do what he loves. I peep up with "be safe!!!!!!!!" and try to relax. It takes work.
💜LOVE💜 the picture of you up in a tree, Brent! It's such a marvelous means of gaining a new perspective, both of the world around us, and of ourselves and our capabilities.
Awe, sweet memories of your mother. No matter what she would have understood, done, or anything else, she would be proud of you for living your life to the best of your ability. Enjoy your memories.
This made me think. I especially liked the comment about climbing trees and sometimes falling. At about age 12 I fell out of a treehouse and landed on a swing set breaking my arm. My mother, as she was wiggling it under the cold water tap, told me to stop fussing, I would live-after my arm came out of the cast I agreed.
Can confirm this is all an accurate description of our mother, except I’d put her cooking skill at good/excellent, rather than incredible: she cooked a little too low fat & healthy for me personally. 😀 RIP MA
Alright, this essay hooked me and I subscribed. My mother, born in 1923, had a similar philosophy and I've had to work hard to overcome a lot of my inherited worries about the world. I've been lurking on your Twitter account, and now I look forward to reading more. I admire what you 2 are doing.
Hey! LOVED this post, thank you. I can relate to so much of it, both as an anxious mom, but also about my fearful mother. Oh, wanted to let you know that the referral link for the Chase credit card is broken on this page ;)
Thanks! Appreciate that. We're all just doing our best.
Yeah, they change those links so often.
This:
"where people actually listen and connect, not just take turns talking and competing for the best zinger"
haha thanks!
. . . And even worse, some people don't even take turns. They just interrupt each other.
Haha true!
So true. It's frustrating how many people think conversations are only about talking, not listening.
Your poor mom, living with that kind of anxiety must have been so difficult. The thing is, while it could have been from some trauma she witnessed in her past, it also could have been the confusion of raising a child in the aftermath of the war. In my teens I thought my parents were just mean or stupid, but now I see that they had to be confused to the point of desperation. The world changed so FAST in the 50's and went totally berserk in the 60's for those who grew up in the 30's and 40's. Who can blame her? The sink thing is advice that remains timeless though.
It's very true. I do remember that. It was less easy to remember when she was spiraling, but yes. She also grew up in the Depression.
Dear Brent:
I can remember my Mom telling me many times there was nothing better for a person to receive a handwritten greeting card in the mail. From what I have experienced, she was right. After she died, I cleaned out her desk and found a supply of enough greeting cards for her to open her own Hallmark store. As for tree houses, having fallen out of couple and losing my breath temporarily (I fell on my chest), I don't miss the excitement of climbing a tree. Plus, I'm afraid of heights anyway. Take care.
haha, yes, there is a thrill of receiving an actual note. I think it means something -- the person thought of you, expended effort, etc. But I suppose that's very old school by now, sadly.
My vertigo grows worse the older I get. Not a good thing!
Just beautiful, and just what I needed to read today. Thank you so much!
Thank you!
I completely get this. This is me, a little in all of this (a little in each of you). My partner has the extreme gene, though, I'm sure. I'm so grateful that he never "let" me tag along on any of his sailboat races. He somehow knew, early on, that I would quietly disappear from his life forever if I experienced that. And he was right. I have no desire to risk my life to win a race. I don't even understand why races or competition exist. Ditto for his mountain climbing and extreme skiing (who flips in the air at high speeds?!). BUT, I totally encourage him to get out there and do all that with his buddies. I want him to do what he loves. I peep up with "be safe!!!!!!!!" and try to relax. It takes work.
Haha, sounds like you have a good compromise though. I don't get the risk thing either, although I still think I can enjoy life to the fullest.
Yes! Thank goodness he also loves galleries, museums, and talking to people all over the world. Phew.
💜LOVE💜 the picture of you up in a tree, Brent! It's such a marvelous means of gaining a new perspective, both of the world around us, and of ourselves and our capabilities.
Very very true! I still climb trees, though I'm much more careful now. hehe
Ah, I truly love this perspective!
Thank you!
Awe, sweet memories of your mother. No matter what she would have understood, done, or anything else, she would be proud of you for living your life to the best of your ability. Enjoy your memories.
Awww, thanks! And yes, I think you're absolutely right. :-)
It sounds like your Mom loved you very much. How blessed you are. Safe travels
Thank you! And you are very very right. I was lucky to have two great parents.
This made me think. I especially liked the comment about climbing trees and sometimes falling. At about age 12 I fell out of a treehouse and landed on a swing set breaking my arm. My mother, as she was wiggling it under the cold water tap, told me to stop fussing, I would live-after my arm came out of the cast I agreed.
Haha, yeah, it was a VERY different generation, wasn't it? Definitely no helicopter parenting. Thanks for the nice words.
Can confirm this is all an accurate description of our mother, except I’d put her cooking skill at good/excellent, rather than incredible: she cooked a little too low fat & healthy for me personally. 😀 RIP MA
-Brent’s brother
Haha. No egg white omelettes, eh? Do you remember the argument about the tree house?
Alright, this essay hooked me and I subscribed. My mother, born in 1923, had a similar philosophy and I've had to work hard to overcome a lot of my inherited worries about the world. I've been lurking on your Twitter account, and now I look forward to reading more. I admire what you 2 are doing.
Thanks! Hope we don't disappoint. (My mom was born 1931. The Depression was tramautic.
Thank you, Rose. Yes, it's definitely a constant struggle! Age is good in some ways, and bad in others. LOL
Hahaha! Maybe it was a 60s thing. I love that -- What if? and Why not? Perfect! And yeah, I don't mind the mix at this point in my life! :-)