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Kelton Wright's avatar

I started to cry and kept crying right at "And by the way, I love you.” May the cat be waiting in the tree wherever he is.

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Thank you. And I love the image of Felix waiting for him. :-)

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ellen zwalsky's avatar

We met at a time and a place where I’d never know your dad. Thank you for sharing him with us today. You’re right he may not have been perfect but he sure was special. Beautifully written. Somehow made me happy and sad at the same time. You know… like life.

I hope you are doing OK

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

It's been tougher than I expected, but I'm carrying on. Thank you for saying so, Ellen.

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Brent Skuba's avatar

Weeping with joy after reading this beautiful eulogy. Thank you so much for sharing it!

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Thank you so much.

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Sierra Tango's avatar

Beautiful words about a beautiful man, your father.

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

thank you so much for saying so

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Molly Ringle's avatar

I'm so sorry, Brent. This was a fabulous eulogy, and I instantly love your dad. He sounds like a model of how to be a great parent and just a great human in general.

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

You would have liked him. Thanks, Molly.

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Lisbeth L. McCarty's avatar

That's one of the most heartfelt eulogies I've ever read or heard. Great job--and you made all your readers love your dad, too.

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

You're very sweet, thank you

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Charlotte Rains Dixon, MFA's avatar

Tears flowing. This is how you write a eulogy.

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Aw, thank you.

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Susan Herzog's avatar

Oh Brent, this is a very beautiful tribute to your dad. I’m sorry for your loss.

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Thank you very much. That means a lot.

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Stan's avatar

Normally I don't read eulogies as they are usually self serving and to be blunt, boring. Your eulogy for your father was heart felt and interesting. Karen (wife) and I are semi-nomadic, traveling 8-9 months a year and will be in SE Asia Sept 23-> Apr 24 and hope our paths across.

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Thank you so much. And I hope we see you, maybe in Europe next year!

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Michael Jensen's avatar

That would be wonderful! Alas, we won't be returning to Asia this year. 😣😣😣

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LJ's avatar

This was so beautiful - thank you for sharing your Dad with us.

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

You're welcome.

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Antonia Malchik's avatar

Good lord. As someone who is very close to her own father, who has told stories about his early childhood resistance of prejudice, just 😭 😭 😭

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Thank you. There have always been "good guys," and I think that's really worth remembering.

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Antonia Malchik's avatar

Absolutely. 🧡🧡🧡

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Amy Mosley's avatar

Great story…..our granddaughter came out at 15. She told us she was gay and I asked if she was sure and was she happy! She replied yes to both questions and we told her as long as she’s happy we’re happy! She was beaming she was so happy! We would never turn her away!

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Thank you.

Lovely! Sounds like you played it perfectly. Kudos!

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Veronica S. Uthe's avatar

Absolutely beautiful! He must have been so proud to have you as his son!

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

I hope so! I think he was.

Thank you for the nice words. 😍

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Femi Asaolu's avatar

Your father's legacy is a beautiful mosaic of love, growth, and genuine humanity. Thank you for sharing these personal and intimate moments that highlight the extraordinary within the ordinary.

Wishing you strength and solace as you carry forward the lessons and memories your father has left you with. Your tribute reminds us all to value the whole picture of the people we care about, even the not-so-perfect parts.

Cheers

Femi

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Thank you! very very sweet of you to say.

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kristen (omventure.com)'s avatar

Perfection. ❤️

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Thank you!

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Joni40's avatar

What a great eulogy to your dad. It made me tear up because I did a eulogy very similar about my dad 10 years ago. We are so blessed to have had these great men raise us. My blessings to you in your sorrow.

Even at the age they were - they’re open acceptance of what went on in our lives was so meaningful, and they showed us how much they loved us by every day of their loving support. Xo

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Thank you! And you're right, I was very lucky to have him as my father.

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