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Jenny's avatar

Thank you for writing with such respect and compassion. A difficult decision: shall I speak to him or leave him alone at this private moment. I think the father loved to speak about his son.

I had a similar experience. My 60 year old brother died unexpectedly. The situation was very difficult for me. He had schizophrenia and these last months we were near each other like never before. But due to his illness, it was also difficult. I didn’t show enough understanding-in hindsight. My heart was very heavy and broken. Another woman came and stood at the same graveyard (a communal grave). After a while we began to speak. Turns out she mourned her brother who died the same age and was also schizophrenic. We had similar experiences and thoughts. It was so relieving for me to speak and someone would listen and understand.

Michael Jensen's avatar

Thank you, Jenny, and thanks for reading. As I said to another commenter, I’ve never understood avoiding grieving or ill people. I think in those moments we need human connectin more than ever.

Actually, I do understand the hesitation. When someone is vulnerable we don’t want to make it worse. But I think reaching out is almost always the right thing to do.

Annette Laing's avatar

Well done, Michael, for not avoiding a man wrapped in grief, for listening, and for showing us the power of compassion, the fragility of human life (including your own), and a Europe in which a man can be both Syrian and Norwegian.

Michael Jensen's avatar

Thanks very much, Annette. And, yes, to Europe and to Norway being such a great country.

Sue  Schaffner's avatar

This was the story I needed to hear this morning. Left me in tears. Thank you for sharing, but most of all, thank you for taking the time to hear Saleh tell the story of Jade.

Michael Jensen's avatar

Thanks, Sue. And thanks for reading.

Anara Guard's avatar

A lovely, sad story. People often want to talk about their loved ones, say their names, after they have passed. Thank you for listening.

Michael Jensen's avatar

Thanks, Anara. And thank you for taking the time to read it.

Laurel Evans's avatar

Beautiful and powerful story 💙

Michael Jensen's avatar

Thanks and thank you for reading it.

Sarah Meyer's avatar

Wooooo, you made me cry. You managed the situation beautifully. Thank you for writing about it for us.

Michael Jensen's avatar

🥰🥰🙏🏻🙏🏻

Matthew M Rice's avatar

Great story. I respect you for your willingness to open up and chat with a grieving father. Probably made his day and allowed him to feel proud to talk about his son after so many years.

Michael Jensen's avatar

Thank you, Matthew.

Carol Hubbard's avatar

What a wonderful thing to do! I’m sure that man will always remember your kindness and empathy. ❤️

Michael Jensen's avatar

That would be lovely. I'd love to know because I was so worried about causing him distress. I think I hemmed and hawed for fifteen minutes before finally approaching him.

David Black MD's avatar

Thank you for your heartfelt skill in RELATING to and writing about this. I'm 78. I've been on both sides of this, i deeply appreciate your insight.

Michael Jensen's avatar

Thank you very much, David. And thanks for reading.

Lise's avatar

This vignette was so moving - thank you.

Michael Jensen's avatar

🙏🏻🙏🏻🥰🥰

Anthony's avatar

What a beautiful story; thank you for sharing.

Michael Jensen's avatar

Thank you for reading.

Catherine's avatar

Your poor head and such sorrow.

Michael Jensen's avatar

Yeah, it's why I've never forgotten Jade and Saleh.

Toni Brayer's avatar

I love your writing. This was so touching

Michael Jensen's avatar

Thank you very much, Toni.

Margaret Coleman's avatar

Lovely story. Thank you.

BJ McCurley's avatar

That was lovely. Thank you for sharing that. You write beautifully.

Michael Jensen's avatar

Thank you. And thanks for reading.

Ann Panda's avatar

Thank you for this beautiful story.

Michael Jensen's avatar

🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 And thanks for reading it.