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Ramona Grigg's avatar

Forever friends are the best kind. You don't even have to be with them to know there will always be that 'forever' part.

Loved this, Brent, and if we had a Jack in the Box around here I'd have to try those terrible tacos.

When Ed I moved to California in 1956 he introduced me to tacos at a taco wagon on the beach at Corona del Mar. (He had been stationed there when he was in the Marines) It dripped grease and the tortilla crumbled and fell apart, and it tasted like nothing I'd ever had before. It was instant lust for those things. I still dream about them.

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Oh those sound good. These are nothing like that! 🤣🤣🤣

You're right about such friends. 🙂

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The Body Electric's avatar

Brent, as you know it's been a tough Christmas for me, for similar reasons. I am remembering how hard it hit me going to your dad's funeral earlier this year, and this Christmas I took some extra time to visit with a family friend who is in his 90s and his memory is still very sharp. Thank you for this beautiful post and for the hope and beauty that it has given me. As I said in private messages earlier when I first started reading it I couldn't get very far without crying so I had to wait a while to read the whole thing for real. Thank you so much my wonderful friend!

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

You are very welcome, my friend. ❤️❤️❤️

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Annette Laing's avatar

Lovely story, Brent, on the joy of old friendships and of making new friends wherever life takes you. After COVID, and all the miseries of the past few years that have disrupted personal connections, this is such a warm and helpful message. All best to you and Michael for 2024. I hope our paths cross one day.

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Thank you. And I am certain they shall cross! 🙂❤️

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Teri's Doing It!'s avatar

I'm with Gayla. I know they're not good for me but I do love those greasy things! Every once in awhile I pull up to the drive through and order two! They're gone by the time I get home and my husband is none the wiser!

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Fair enough! 🙂🤣

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Jenn H's avatar

Ohh, this line: "whatever you choose, you don’t get to keep it for long." At midlife, this has been hitting me all year.

But on a lighter note, Merry Christmas, Happy Boxing Day, Good New Year ... whatever you celebrate!

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Thank you! And same to you ❤️

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Debra O’Connor's avatar

Great column.

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Thank you 🙂

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Brent Skuba's avatar

So few things endure the way your friendship with Tom has…and the deliciously gross Jack in the Box taco! Thanks for sharing these lovely thoughts.

I’m genuinely curious about something: why do you say “Christmas Day Eve” rather than “Christmas Eve”? I don’t think I’ve ever seen or heard it called that before.

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Oh! Christmas Day Eve is the evening if Christmas Day (not Christmas Eve). I think I made this up years ago.. 🤔

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Brent Skuba's avatar

Oh I see now…thank you!

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Gayla Gray's avatar

I love those "terrible" tacos and the greasier the better. One of my goals for next year is to do things that allow me to make more friends. This is so difficult for me and my introverted heart, but now that I'm retired, I have no excuse not to focus on what brings me joy. Happy New Year, Brent and Michael!!

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Thank you! And same to you...

And that is a lovely resolution

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Vijaya Ramesh's avatar

The beauty of childhood friendships! I just reconnected with my bestie from 45 years ago. We never liked the same movie stars or books but were still best friends. Can't wait to find out if we are still as different and our time together as magical

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Oh that's beautiful. ❤️

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Darlene White's avatar

This was a great and very relatable story about life as a nomad and lifelong friends. And, ironically, when I was pregnant 30 years ago, all I craved for months was Jack in the Box tacos and Chef Boyardee canned raviolis. Must have been the processed meat. Wouldn’t touch them now, but have great memories of them and that time. And my daughter has been a vegetarian for years 😉

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Lol. And I think we know why!

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Elizabeth's Travel Journal's avatar

Such a great reminder for us sll. Merry Christmas!

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Elizabeth's Travel Journal's avatar

For us *all*

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Lol

Thank you 🙂

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Kim's avatar

Well said. Best to you and Michael in the new year.

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

And same to you!

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Joe Prince's avatar

Goodness gracious, this hit hard. Thank you for this lovely piece of writing, Brent. Words to take to heart. Hope y’all are enjoying the cruise!

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

❤️❤️❤️

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Chuck Young's avatar

Great reminders! Thank you!

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Thank you 🙂

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brian Defyin' (Gravity)'s avatar

😭 so beautiful!!!

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Thank you 🙂

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Linda Cardillo's avatar

Excellent tribute to your friend and making every day count. We only have so many days on this earth. Start each day with the intention to make that day the best you can,each an everyday.

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Thank you! And you are very correct. 😍

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