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Alternative Lives R Available's avatar

Recommendations.....

1. Regular updates to will, including inventories and lists of all assets. (Just to remind him what he's risking!)

2. Have a pocket full of indemnity forms, saying,

"I, .............. confirm that I have been warned not to ............... and am ignoring that advice entirely at my own risk.

Signed.......

Witnessed........

3. Carry a small picture of a really handsome younger guy in an ornate silver frame and, when he's playing up, take out the picture, look wistfully at it, and say, "Yeah, you're right. Go for it!"

😬

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

😂😂😂

Will take ALL of these suggestions.

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Michael Jensen's avatar

Hmm, I'm not sure I like ALL of our subscribers...

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Alternative Lives R Available's avatar

😬

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Jennifer Barnett's avatar

I was so worried that boat wasn't coming back.

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

😂😂

At the time, I was too!

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Patti Petersen's avatar

Haha, this marriage business is really tricky. We've been married four years and I'm the one who has to be reined in... sometimes I want to susulk and throw a tetemper tantrum but here's the thing. My husband has never questioned or given me pause when I've asked something sometimes outrageous of him. I like to say he's the voice of reason in our relationship. Somebody has to be, and I can promise it will never be me. Great share, I loved the ending.

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Very fair! Yes, the combo is often a very good thing, isn't it? Keep each other excited and/or alive.

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Michael Koehler's avatar

“You should see this thing’s teeth.”

“I want to. Where was it?” 😂

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

😂😂😂

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Michael Jensen's avatar

Hey, I've got to be true to myself!

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Tomesha Campbell's avatar

I loved reading this. And I would have left that water immediately to never return, lol.

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Exactly!

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Michael Jensen's avatar

A perfectly valid choice!

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Jenn H's avatar

I imagine every couple has this same debate every time something falls into the gap between their individual risk tolerances. :-D Ideally, the worrier reins in some behavior that might actually be a bad idea, and the free spirit encourages the worrier to have a couple of adventures, but sometimes we each stand on our own side of the divide, shaking our heads at the other's behavior. (I'm the worrier in my relationship!)

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Exactly! Very well put. You need some degree of compatibility but I can also be very complimentary.

Totally believe that.

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Elaine's avatar

I dove through a school of barracuda because they were between me and the wreck I wanted to see. Didn't tell the Hubster, though. He doesn't dive. 😅

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Michael Jensen's avatar

We should dive together! LOL

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

My lips are sealed!

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DR Darke's avatar

Sounds pretty fishy to me....

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Haha shoulda used that one

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DR Darke's avatar

...and here I thought you just left it there for us! 😁

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Noha Beshir's avatar

I am 100% you in this scenario. I'd be losing my mind. And the title is great although I assume Michael was ok with it lol.

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Haha thank you. 🙂

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Michael Jensen's avatar

Let's just say there was a "discussion." 😂😂😂

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Noha Beshir's avatar

Ha! You did it for the art, right Michael? You're a good artist 😂😂

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Michael Jensen's avatar

Always for the art!

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Rebecca Holden's avatar

Loved this!

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Thank you!

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Foxibot's avatar

Your hubby needs to see this article, boo. https://l.smartnews.com/p-lnNeAqs/t4JMP5 You see you were right to be worried! By the way I was warned not to wear shiny jewelry in Bahamas diving because of barracuda! So I didn’t lose any fingers.

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

😂😂😂😂 I sent it to him. He's still being stubborn!

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Foxibot's avatar

I am so happy he it least saw it!Like I said I was extremely warned about barracudas when i was snorkeling and swimming in Bahamas. But I too love the water like your hubby! I just hope if I was attacked by a shark I wouldn’t feel anything and it would take me quick. I fear tiger sharks and bulls and of course great whites, because bulls have high testosterone that makes them more aggressive, and their bite is full of infection.

Tigers have a tendency to hunt you down like they are playing a game with you. Don’t swim in Hawaii in October or November, listen to the natives, who will say when it’s safe, some woman went morning swimming with her friend and got eaten by a tiger. Don’t ever swim in early mornings. The friend got crazy lucky. Because I watched a whole true story about these couples and their deckhand that had their boat sink, and the tiger stalked every single one of them, killing all but one girl.

It was especially sad because they were basically all family or extended family. One couple was re kindling their romance and he was very close to the other’s family. The deckhand was too scared to swim for it because he knew and had seen the sharks in that area, so he stayed with the upside down sinking boat, and they never found any evidence of his body, or the boat, so he died too. They had a cannery factory so fish guts were like chum in the water. And it was full of massively huge turtles. They had a turtle island area, hence the name. Just invest in some good shark ankle bracelets and wrist bracelets ma boo. That’s what I’m getting next time I swim in ocean, at least I can say I did something. Also stay out of water early morning and at dusk. And when it’s raining or bad weather, they can’t see and will confuse you, for prey, no tattoos because they think that’s a fish, there are horrible stories of being attacked with tats. Cover them up. One lady had her back ripped out because she had a back tattoo. Also no finger or toenail polish, they confuse that for fish, or shiny jewelry. And don’t go beyond the sand dunes. Sharks are at the haystack level which is 60 feet although they can get in shallow water and get stuck there by tides pulling them in.

Plus the closer you are to shore, if bit the more likely you are to get help faster, further out you could drown and be around more sharks. Don’t squeal or scream or make splashing sounds, it’s the splashing and squealing that brings the sharks because they think you are an injured animal. I was an advanced life saver and took diving too. My master diver never could convince me to do a night dive. I love the ocean but just in the daytime light where I can reasonably see! I did hope with that article you got to say see i told you so! Lol I had read your article and then right after saw the barracuda attack. Funny story, I tried protecting my ex when he insisted on going spear fishing, but when he refused to listen to local experts in Bahamas who told him it’s too dangerous, I gave up and drank a whole bottle of Spanish Champagne ( I rarely drink) on the beach and pretended to make phone calls, when he asked what was I doing, I said oh, making arrangements after your death after the sharks eat you, to buy a house here with your $350,000 insurance policy! Lol He got out. I actually did see a fin near him another time he was in the ocean acting like a fool. Straight coullion that one was! 💙💙

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Haha thank you for the words of caution! I didn't know any of that about tattoos, and I guess I'm glad I don't have any. I have a deathly fear of sharks! Did you see the video last week of the folks in the shark cage, and the great white GETS INTO THE CAGE WITH THEM! Fortunately, no one was hurt, but it was a crazy video.

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Laura | Sunhats and Chardonnay's avatar

Love this!

From another 30+ years married person, you can always suggest the sensible thing, but in the end, letting the other one be right, (or think they are,) is what keeps it interesting.

In the end, there's always a story.

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Haha yes ultimately we're all individuals (or should be) and it always does make an interesting story!

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BorderCollieMomSandyY's avatar

Pretty colorful life you have…. Charming

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

🙂🙂🙂

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Julie van Maanen's avatar

That's hilarious, and answers one of my ongoing questions. I found myself surrounded by a school of barracuda once, while swimming of the coast of Cuba. They looked scary, with their shark-like eyes and shimmering grey bodies. I didn't know for sure if they were dangerous, but I got out of there pretty quick!

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

Good call! 😂

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Michael Jensen's avatar

We got together when we were ten! LOL LOL

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Brent Hartinger's avatar

🙂🙂🙂

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