I don't think I'm rationalizing either.
This really resonated with me. I just turned 60 and am happier than I've ever been in life, for the same reasons you've shared in this column. My husband and I are retired full-time travelers, and toast to our good luck and happiness almost every day. I greatly enjoy your writing, thank you for doing what you do!
Loved reading this. You two are so inspiring.
Love this post, Brent! And glad to hear you're happy and enjoying life. That's worth more than anything.
I so resonate with everything you wrote :) I too am in my 50s, and like you spent my younger years worrying about how I looked and what other people thought of me (btw I work in fashion). Now I see old photos of myself and see how lovely I looked. Sure, I was no Cindy Crawford but Younger Me didn't realise what she had. What did I have to be insecure about? Brent, I have to say you were attractive as a young man and you are now, and making peace with our appearance and person is, I agree, one of the wonderful things about getting older.
Also, just to add, being an older parent has a lot to recommend to it. I had children late (I was old enough to be the mother of other mums at playgroup!) and felt a certain relaxed confidence, and less pressure to further my career etc at the same time as being a parent.
I’m straight but: You’re a handsome man. Just sayin.
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I really enjoyed all your points, but I especially appreciated the one about making friends. Being in the 30s-40s crowd without kids is a tough environment to build new friendships, so it's good to know there will be different seasons to come.
I totally agree. One of my favorite quotes is, “The math of time is simple. You have less time than you think and need more time than you know.” It’s a sobering thought as I age. It’s also my experience that some people do not realize that time is passing them by because everything in their life is the same day to day. That is why I try to make every day new by meeting new people, learning and trying new things. I think that is also how you “roll.”
Great perspective and attitude! I loved my 50s and early 60s, even though there were the “dead and dying parent” tough times. Ironically, my own health took a downhill turn the year the last of our parents died. It’s added to the “aging sucks” side of things. But I do try to just keep going and enjoying life and hoping for a resolution to the health issue. I have chuckled many times lately as I’ve realized that in the view of someone holding a door for me, giving me a seat on the subway, waving me ahead of them in a line, that they seeing me as old! Ok, I’ll happily take that subway seat. lol!
Hell yeah! I’m a couple decades younger than you and this is a truly refreshing take and gives me a lot to look forward to 🙇♂️
I totally agree. I love my age and the freedom I feel as Paul and I travel the world. You never stop learning, and exploring keeps your mind active. Good piece!
I think you've got it! Attitude is everything. The years mean nothing--except that you have them, and the smart thing to do is to make good use of them!
Great piece Brent. I’m a few years ahead of you on on that inevitable path and so much of what you said really reaonates. Thanks for putting this out there.
So many yeses to this 😃 I absolutely agree that life gets better with age. (And you're looking pretty good on it 👌)
Thank you Brent and the gay male community for making baldness sexy - my husband has been bald since his 20's too and I think he's hot as a cat on a hot tin roof :) Loved the post and really resonated with everything being in my early 50's.
Love this article. After 54 years with diabetes and 7 heart attacks I have decided to live abroad. MY dream. Hubby is not enthusiastic about it but it will work out. This article has reaffirmed. The fact I’ve known all too well. Life is too short and it’s time to smell the roses in another country.
It is only the beginning! I am loving this time in my life. In our semi-nomadic lifestyle, it's like being a college freshman again. Everyone is open to meeting new people and they have interesting stories to share accumulated through years of experiences.